Agent skill · writing content · erichowens
partner-text-coach
Real-time communication coach for navigating partner/relationship texts. Analyzes incoming messages for emotional subtext, suggests thoughtful responses, helps de-escalate conflict, and provides
Why this skill is useful
Provides a framework for analyzing emotional subtext in texts that the AI wouldn't reliably generate on its own.
What it needs
About 8k tokens when loaded. Last updated 2026-07-14. 180 stars on the source repository.
What this skill does
Partner Text Coach Navigate relationship communication with emotional intelligence. Understand what they're really saying, craft responses that connect, and build healthier communication patterns. When to Use This Skill Use for: Decoding the emotional subtext of partner messages Crafting thoughtful responses to difficult texts De-escalating text conflicts before they spiral Planning follow-up conversations after texts Learning healthier communication patterns Understanding your own communication style NOT for: Manipulation or "winning" arguments → seek healthy communication Revenge, ghosting, or silent treatment advice → not productive Replacing couples therapy → text coaching supplements, doesn't replace Abusive relationships → contact domestic violence resources Legal situations → consult appropriate professionals How This Works Message Analysis Framework Three Layers of Reading a Message Red Flags in Text Communication Attachment-Informed Responses Understanding Attachment Patterns Response Crafting The 3-Part Response Structure Response Tone Calibration De-Escalation Templates The Talk-Back Feature How to Use Talk-Back Role-Play Mode Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Reference The NVC Formula NVC Text Adaptations Gottman Research: The Four Horsemen Avoiding Relationship-Damaging Patterns Follow-Up Strategies After a Difficult Text Exchange The Bid Check-In Anti-Patterns "Winning" the Argument Pattern: Treating text exchange as battle to be won. Problem: Partners aren't opponents. "Winning" means someone loses. Instead: Seek understanding and solution, not victory. Over-Explaining Pattern: Essay-length texts defending your position. Problem: Overwhelms partner, looks defensive, invites counter-essay. Instead: Be concise. "Can we talk about this more in person?" Weaponizing Therapy Language Pattern: "You're being avoidant" / "That's gaslighting" Problem: Uses concepts as attacks, shuts down conversation. …
How to use it
Reference it in AdaL, Claude Code, Cursor or any coding agent — nothing to install:
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